Over the years I have mentored and counselled many young men and older-to-middle-aged men on the addictions they have regarding internet pornography. I am convinced this has to be at the centre of all discipleship discussions and in no way shirked by ministers and anyone in leadership responsibility.
In every case I have assumed it is happening in the lives of these men and I have never been wrong (in this at least)! The prevalence of shame and guilt linked to this addiction is destroying not just marriages and relationships, but people as individuals.
Pornography is the ultimate locust plague and the newest form of the Golden Calf; the ultimate consumerist need; a dehumanising consumption of humanity – by humanity – on a scale hitherto unknown.
It presents itself as something good, something delicious, but it is not; it may look like a nice cake but it is horse manure wrapped in icing that is laced with despair and brokennness.
Yes I know pornography is as old as the skies. Yes I know the complexities of the nature-nurture debates and the desire-affections debates and the secret Victorian obsessions and the Canaanite fertility symbols that demonstrate in one way or another this is not new: mankind is obsessed with sex. But what we face today as a “postmodern” people in a global world is new. Something has shifted, and the statistics below merely highlight the beginnings of this new-(but old)-world-order.
We are now beyond the territory of the erotic (marital) sex of the Song of Solomon, and we have walked blindfolded into the horror show of Ezekiel 16 and 23. Some may say that since this blog is a Christian blog, that I am some sort of lemon-sucking prude, a proper Victorian anti-sex Puritan. Well I’m not. The statistics below (from but one country) will contain the detail of what and why I am against this vile trade in people who are made in the image of God.
The Guardian online recently published an excellent article by Laura Bates entitled ‘Rape is not a punchline or a way to sell Christmas presents‘. She writes,
“In fact, there is evidence of some links between the portrayal of women as sexual objects and attitudes that underpin violence against women and girls. The government-commissioned Sexualisation of Young People review found evidence to suggest a clear link between consumption of sexualised images, a tendency to view women as objects and the acceptance of aggressive attitudes and behaviours as the norm. And the 2010 report by the American Psychological Association on the Sexualisation of Girls detailed links between sexually objectifying images of women and girls in mainstream media and significantly higher levels of acceptance of rape myths, victim-blaming, sexual harassment and interpersonal violence.”
I find it astonishing we need government-commissioned reviews to reach this plainly obvious conclusion. This runs in tandem with the idiotic advertising strategies of various corporations around the world to suggest and insinuate rape and abuse of women in order to sell their grubby wares! It should take more than public shock and complaint to realise this; or is the saturation of our minds by advertising companies now so dense that enticements to rape and abuse are the thing that will keep our economies strong? In fact, “woe to you” if that’s what it takes to run a business in profit, and maintain a strong economy.
BTW, this post is not about anyone’s right “to do what they want” or whatever narcissistic neo-liberal construct of society you choose to adopt (as though anything one individual does is completely independent of anything and everyone around them (whether you are a Christian or not) – what nonsense)! It is simply about the fallout from this industry that is destroying real lives on an industrial scale.